Do you apologize or say sorry all the time? Instead of apologizing quite often, sometimes you better be quiet … or just assume. You should know when you should say sorry.
It is said that each time we apologize when we really don’t have to, a bit of our energy and our power goes away. And asking for “forgiveness” when you have done nothing wrong, often feeling guilty for nothing, is losing a little more self-confidence day by day.
So, what should we do? Well, we start by taking a deep breath several times before doing it, and we wonder if we really have to do it. If we make a mistake for which we are totally responsible, we ask for forgiveness for sure. But when you are not responsible, no, you do not apologize, in 10 situations similar to these.
1. You should stop apologizing when … you don’t want to do something because you don’t have time or it really bothers you. A girlfriend wants to get your kids back on a weekend when you planned to go on a getaway with your lover. Your mom wants to drop by to see you while you’re drowning in stuff. Your boss gives you a huge file in a very short time when you are already swamped. Say no, just explain clearly and quickly why, without justifying yourself. “No” is not a bad word. It is even absolutely necessary to avoid becoming crazy.
2. You should stop apologizing when… you don’t want to buy this hideous dress that the seller is trying to sell you or these pretty jeans that don’t suit you, your body, or your budget. It is not written in any law that the customer must necessarily buy when entering a store (and fortunately otherwise we would all be ruined and it would be the crisis of the century). We should also keep in mind that it is the seller who serves the customer, not the other way around. And you learn to shop just for fun, without worrying, only happiness. To enjoy, in short.
3. You should stop apologizing when… you refuse to give money on the street, to an association, or to jokes in the middle of a bachelor party, for example. Instead, you smile kindly and answer (optionally) “no thanks”. If you apologize, it’s because you feel guilty. However, you did nothing wrong, you did not even ask for anything, and our finances which do not feed themselves either. If you gave money to everyone, you would quickly be bankrupt. Giving is good, but not all the time and of course, not to everyone. So you blow, you assume, and your smile!
4. You should stop apologizing when … your man wants to make love tonight but not you. Just tell him, “I don’t feel like doing it tonight”. There is no right or wrong, laudable, or laudable action. It’s just a desire shift, common when a relationship begins to last. That’s how you can’t want everything at the same time. And so much the better it creates suspense and makes us want to seduce the other even more…
5. You should stop apologizing when … you allow yourself to cry in front of someone. Unless you are the queen of crocodile tears, it just shows that you need to have a good time, and it will only touch your friend, colleague, mom, neighbor,…. And then the loved ones, that’s what it is for. As for the others, they too will cry in front of strangers, I can assure you. So we play down. Everything is fine.
6. You should stop apologizing when … you missed something, whether it’s a dish, its license, a Kamasutra position. To fail is not a drama, it is often funny. And by apologizing for something not serious, you make all the fiasco a funny moment and prevent you from living a great moment of complicity and married. We release our second degree!
7. You should stop apologizing when … a non-glamorous noise comes out of your throat or from another part of your body. Unless you are in a professional setting, we prefer a smirk, laughter, or even the hypnotic technique of “You heard nothing”. Oh yes, you are human, so it is natural to have your body that goes a little spin sometimes. So it’s better to laugh than to come close to cardiac arrest every time ashamed.
8. You should stop apologizing when … you have to cancel dinner, an afternoon with your associate or friends because of a big obligation (work, family, etc). Already that it annoys us, we should not add more either!
9. You should stop apologizing when … a big problem happens to you, like breaking your arm, falling ill, sometimes seriously … Ha because it was you who decided in full consciousness to live this? If it is not the case, which concerns approximately 99.99% of the situations, then think first of your butt, of doing yourself good, and accept that the others are there nothing for you, for once.
10. You should stop apologizing when … you made a real mistake, for which you are 100% responsible. Because “we ask for forgiveness” or we “ask the other to excuse us” instead of “apologize”. Because if your counterpart is already pissed off because of you and in addition he/she sees you self-apologize, he/she may blame you damn more.
so, instead of thinking to apologize or to say sorry all the time, now you may have some idea about when you should apologize or say sorry. Don’t get stressed about it though.